Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Two steps forward and one step back...

Today's visit started off great, Anna came right to both of us and we starting playing together. After just a short time, a few little ones from her group came in for a music class. Anna was so excited and jumped right in with the songs and motions. When it was time for them to leave she clung to her caregiver and started crying! It was really surprising because before when her group would leave she didn't seem to mind. She cried and cried while her caregiver left the room, it took us quite some time to settle her down but the day went downhill from there. A little while later another caregiver came to feed her her morning snack, again when she went to leave Anna cried for her and wanted nothing to do with us. She seemed particularly upset by them leaving her today. She would let us play for a few minutes then she would start getting sad again. After a couple of hours we realized she was only getting more upset and it seemed like the best thing would be to send her back to her group so she wouldn't be so sad. We knew this reaction was very likely at some point, but things had been going so well we were surprised to see her react this way today. I think she is starting to realize there may be a reason we keep coming back every day, and perhaps starting to resist us and the changes we bring to her normal routine. Hopefully today was just an off day and tomorrow she will be back to her happy self!

After our visit we went with the director of our orphanage to a large baby store to purchase the items with the money we received from donations. It was so much fun and a good day for some retail therapy! The director seemed very excited to purchase some "big ticket" items that she had been wanting to buy. She told us they were in need of baby strollers that they could take the smaller babies outside in during the winter and still allow them to lay down and be warm. We were able to purchase 3 of these! This was great because these type of strollers are very expensive and I am sure they will use them often. They feel it is important that the children get fresh air everyday and even take them outside as long as the temperature is above 5 degrees! We also purchased a large plastic play yard for crawling children so they can play inside a safe environment without escaping. She also chose many small baby teething type toys and a large quantity of Q-tips! I guess you go through many of those with 105 children:-) As they were loading up the van will all the purchases she told me they would always remember our family because of these items. I told her they were gifts from Anna's friends and family back home as a thank-you for the care she received from them. She told me "please tell them to come and adopt these children and babies". I was so touched by this, she truly desires to find loving homes for each of the children under her care. She is a wonderful lady.

Here are pictures of the purchases from many of you! Thank you, thank you!









4 comments:

Heather Brandt said...

Don't worry too much about the crying...Colin cried more on our 2nd trip and it tended to be when a caregiver was in the room...They have depended on these caregivers for survival and we are still just visitors/playmates at this point...Colin cried a lot when we picked him up on gotcha day but once he was in the car he went to sleep. He was fine when he was at the hotel too. Prepare yourself for the possibility of Anna crying at Gotcha Day. It is a scary time for her when you wisk her away from her caregivers. I think it is great that she seems attached to them because that means she is capable of attaching to you all as her forever family.

How wonderful that you were able to make all the purchases for that baby home!

Take care,

heather
www.russianblessings.wordpress.com

Shelley said...

Keep that heart together, leaning on the Heavenly Father. His love through you will help her learn that you and Ryan are there to parent her, to be her permanent caregivers, to show her the family love she needs so desperately.

We opened your 'invitation' to help raise $ the day after you left -- it was hidden in our three weeks' worth of mail. Glad you were able to bring such blessing to those who have given your Anna so much.

Unknown said...

Ryan and Amy,
I am so excited for both of you and the journey you are taking as a family. It was neat to see pictures of little Anna and hear the joy in your story of this little girl. You both have been waiting so long and I cannot wait for you to bring her home. I bet the boys are excited, even if they do miss you. Are they going to be down at your folks house? Hopefully we will get a chance to see her when you guys come down. I love hearing about your journey and we will continue to pray for all of you. You are almost there. Love you both and I'm very excited and happy for you.
Love,
Steffanie (Jason, Meghan, Addy and Claire too)

Kim said...

I totally agree with Heather's comment. Our daughter fell asleep in the car on Gotcha day also! Her crying is a great sign of attachment. She will quickly learn to trust you as you meet her needs continually. She will be fine just keep lavishing her with love as I know you are enjoying that part! She'll be ALL yours very soon! Sleep now!